Here are 10 inspiring words from the actress best known for her role as Princess Leia in the Star Wars franchise.
1. On learning from life
She told Rolling Stone: ‘What I always wanna tell young people now: Pay attention. This isn’t gonna happen again. Rather than try to understand it as it’s going along, have it go along for a while and then understand it.’
2. On the notion of beauty as an accomplishment
She told Good Housekeeping: ‘We treat beauty like an accomplishment, and that is insane. Everyone in LA says, ‘Oh you look good,’ and you listen for them to say you’ve lost weight. It’s never ‘How are you?’ or ‘You seem happy!’’
3. Her hard truth about sex and lies
Consoling a woman whose husband cheated, Fisher wrote, ‘Everyone always lies about sex. If you haven’t lied about it, it isn’t sex. Have you ever faked an orgasm? Some might say that’s a kind of well-meaning lie – but it’s still lying, no?’
4. About turning your illness to a chance of being heroic
Addressing someone living with bipolar disorder, Fisher wrote from her own experience with mental illness.
‘We have been given a challenging illness, and there is no other option than to meet those challenges. Think of it as an opportunity to be heroic – not ‘I survived living in Mosul during an attack’ heroic, but an emotional survival. An opportunity to be a good example to others who might share our disorder.’
5. About the ability to forgive
In her Guardian advice column, responding to a woman whose husband had an affair, Fisher wrote: ‘Forgive him. It’s the most amazing thing to be able to forgive. And so difficult. But relationships are difficult. You’ve managed to maintain your commitment to him. You’re the better person in that arena and in the position to forgive.’
6. About overcoming fear
Asked what she’d tell young people who are afraid to pursue their dreams while living with a mental illness, she said: ‘Stay afraid, but do it anyway. What’s important is the action. You don’t have to wait to be confident. Just do it and eventually the confidence will follow.’
7. About secrets and shame
She told Palm Beach Illustrated about secret shame: ‘It’s best to talk about it. You’re only as sick as your secrets. If it is a secret — anything that makes you sort of shame-based — if you can claim it, it has a lot of less power over you.’
8. When body-shamers tried to get at her
After her looks became a topic of scrutiny in the wake of Star Wars: The Force Awakens, Fisher slammed her body-shamers: ‘Please stop debating about whether or not I aged well. Unfortunately it hurts all three of my feelings. My body hasn’t aged as well as I have. Blow us.’
9. Her advice on love
In a conversation with Courtney Love in The Return of Courtney Love, Fisher gave the singer some love advice.
‘After I’ve made as many bad choices as I have, I have to assume that the choices are mine. I’m not a victim and neither are you. We are choosing these people … You’re not lonely if you choose friends to be with, but you have to find companions to be with. You’re gonna have to find someone you like and not are in love with. You get really stirred up and crazy when you’re in love.’
10. And about fitting in
In her book Wishful Drinking, she wrote: ‘And when you’re young you want to fit in. Hell, I still want to fit in with certain humans, but as you get older you get a little more discriminating.’
Rest in peace, Carrie!
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